Looking back at my teenage years, I was a horrible friend. I had no idea how to uphold friendships and no idea how to deal with others when I was hurt by them. I know what I did wrong now by watching my teens negotiate their way through friendships. I also want to apologize to everyone I hurt during that time.
I want to pass on some wisdom that I hope helps you.
Here is some advice for you to take to heart:
1. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
2. If you want your friends to listen to your problems, start by listening yourself.
3. Your friends will hurt your feeling from time to time. Forgive quickly and move on.
4. Respect and trust can be quickly earned and given. Respect and trust are not easily regained when lost.
5. You can be friends with lots of people. It is okay. But don’t forget those that have been friends with you for a long time.
6. Honesty is the best policy. You will hurt your friends sometimes with your honesty and they will hurt your feelings when they are honest with you. Again, forgive quickly and realize they only have the best intentions for you.
7. If your friends seem to be abandoning you, take a look in the mirror and ask why. Is it them or is it you?
8. Boyfriends and girlfriends will come and go. Do not let them define your friendships and don’t let them be an issue in your friendships. Also, do not let them overtake your friendships. You will need those friendships later.
9. Being critical and criticizing your friends will lead you to lose friends. You might mean well, but sometimes advice freely given is not always welcome unless sought.
10. When good things happen to your friends, be happy for them. When bad things happen to your friends, be sad with them. The point: just be there for them whatever the circumstances.
Thanks for reading! Have a great day!